A Cuban woman living abroad has taken to social media to share her experiences with her family members on the island, hoping to find others who might relate or offer some understanding. In a video posted on TikTok just hours ago, Leonella voiced her frustration over the behavior of some of her relatives in Cuba, who only reach out when they need something, forgetting that she also has her own responsibilities and a family to care for.
"If you don't call, they won't call you. They only reach out when they need something and forget that you also have a daughter, sons, family, work, and bills to pay," she lamented.
Referring to her own situation, she elaborated: "We work a lot here, earn good money, and have everything, but everything comes with a price. They don't realize that the little we can bring when we visit Cuba is sometimes not even appreciated."
"I don't wear branded clothes; I dress nicely because I love to look good, but I don't wear brand-name stuff. I wear Skechers because they're super comfortable, and I like them and they're a bit cheaper than Nike," she added.
Leonella's frustration also extends to the material expectations of her family: "I work myself to the bone, I do extra hours to bring gifts and clothes for the kids, and they don't appreciate it. They don't appreciate anything. I leave them money, and they want more. They want the latest phone of the year, branded clothes that I don't even wear, and branded shoes that I don't use either."
This video has sparked various reactions on TikTok, with many users identifying with her situation. "Those who stay want the life you have, not material things. They feel insulted, thinking you give them what you have left over, and I believe this happens generally," said one commenter. "I stopped dealing with this long ago; I don't go to Cuba anymore, and I don't bring anything except medications. The rest, they can sort out themselves," added another.
Some users also shared how their families in Cuba only contact them when there's an urgent need: "The worst part is, they get offended when you tell them they only call out of interest. They don't call to see how you're doing or wish you a happy birthday, but they do call to ask for something urgent." "It's sad, but they are like that. That's why I didn't make it a habit to send anything to my family. It's better for me, the one who breaks my back working."
The reactions to the video, which continue to grow, reflect a range of emotions and decisions, from empathy and solidarity to the resolution of taking drastic measures. Leonella's story resonates with many, highlighting a reality shared by those who, although far from their homeland, face similar challenges in their family relationships.
What do you think? Is her frustration exaggerated, is her situation unique, or does this happen more often than one might think?
Understanding the Struggles of Cuban Expats with Their Families
Below are some commonly asked questions and answers that delve deeper into the issues faced by Cuban expats when dealing with their families back in Cuba.
Why do Cuban expats often feel unappreciated by their family members in Cuba?
Many Cuban expats feel that their family members in Cuba only reach out when they need something, without acknowledging the hard work and sacrifices made by those living abroad. This lack of appreciation can lead to feelings of frustration and resentment.
How do material expectations from family members affect Cuban expats?
Material expectations can place a significant burden on Cuban expats, who often work long hours and make extra efforts to provide for their families. When these efforts are not acknowledged or appreciated, it can strain relationships and create emotional stress.
What are some ways Cuban expats cope with these challenges?
Some Cuban expats choose to limit their interactions and financial support, focusing instead on sending essential items like medications. Others set clear boundaries to manage expectations and reduce the emotional toll of these relationships.